If you have children in grades Kindergarten through High School, you've probably experienced a Parent/Teacher Conference. It should be a time where parents, teachers and students work together as a team to openly discuss any opportunities and challenges your child may be experiencing. And the goal should end with a positive solution for that child's success. Unfortunately, too many sessions end with a shouting match, were parents feel berated having a stranger telling them what their child needs, the child feels defeated, because they feel they aren't doing a good job and teachers feel defensive, because no one wants to take their advice.
As one who has experienced many P/T Conferences, here's some suggestions to end the Drama:
- Make a list. Instead of going to the meeting unprepared, write the talking points you want to discuss.
- Listen. Parents can become defensive, especially when the teacher shares negative reports. However, listen, think, breath and then respond.
- Follow up. Most Parent/Teacher Conferences are limited to a specific length of time. So, if you feel another conversation is needed to resolve any unfinished business, make another appointment with the teacher. If needed, request the school Principal or Counselor be present too for support.
The bottom line: Advocate so your child receives services and gets the best education experience to keep them on the right track.
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